Consider for a moment a horrible scenario which unfortunately is far too common in the world today: an abusive, domineering husband whose timid wife fears for her safety, yet is so paralyzed that she dare not risk an attempt to flee. If the couple has any children, there likely exists a much greater incentive to attempt to persuade the husband to change his behavior; abandoning the family, or attempting to escape with the children, is a scenario few such women entertain, let alone successfully execute.
This all-too-real example also serves as a parable for the relationship between the federal government and the several states. Whereas all parties joined hands in a solemn union under a clear and concise contract, the federal government has since that time repeatedly and relentlessly abused the terms of our contract, and has forced its will upon the states and the American people. Failure to comply with these federal edicts subjects the offending individual to fines, prison time, or both, and subjects states to a loss of the federal funding to which they have become addicted. In extreme cases of controversial conflict, the federal government backs up its mandates with physical force using the armed forces.