When I teach Family Resource Management, I feel it is important to help students understand that their best decisions are reflective of their innermost values. Values have been defined as concepts of the desirable; the concepts we choose, prize and act upon.
Making the best decision requires that our values be at the conscious level, which is sometimes an elusive task.
Throughout my own years of child-rearing, I maintained that my family came first. My husband and I chose our home because the little community park was just over the back fence, complete with sand, swings and a seesaw. The foothills were just half a block away, offering hiking trails, trees, and streams to wade in.
Mom at home was a priority, so I did not work outside the home. But there was a hang-up: When my little boys begged me to go with them to the park and push them in the swings because they were too small to make the swings "go," I put them off.
I heard myself saying, "Sure, we will all go to the park together -- just as soon as I get the kitchen cleaned up."