KUNSAN AIR BASE, Republic of Korea -- Thirty years ago, my father changed my life, as well as the lives of his other family members, forever. He took a shotgun and shot himself in the head. His death certificate reads, "Self-inflicted gunshot wound." I can't tell you how many times I've heard people joke about something being so bad, "that I should just shoot myself."
As I hear songs like "Butterfly Kisses" and "Daddy's Hands," as I watch a movie like "Father of the Bride," that phrase, "self-inflicted gunshot wound," echoes in my mind.