Most elementary age students want to be good kids and not be bullies, said an elementary school counselor.
"The kids want to do what is right," said Shauna Jones, a counselor at Antelope Elementary School in Clearfield and at Taylor Elementary School in Centerville.
Jones divides her time between the two schools and spends as much time as she can in classrooms talking about what it means to be a bully. One topic she is teaching, which she didn't have to 15 years ago, is cyber bullying.
"Many of the kids think it is anonymous, but when they learn it isn't anonymous and it isn't funny and a very serious thing, the rate of cyber bullying drops," Jones said.
She does a presentation for fourth- to sixth-graders about what cyber bullying is.
Jones said students also learn they need to get along with others because when they become an adult, "you have to work with everyone, regardless of whether you like them or not. Bosses will not tolerate inappropriate behavior."
Recently, President Barack Obama put schools on guard, asking them to do more to prevent bullying and citing recent suicides connected with cyber bullying as examples.
Utah has not had any reported suicides linked to cyber bullying, educaton officials said.
According to a recent report released by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, "Boys were more likely than girls to be physically bullied or threatened, but girls were more likely to be victims of Internet harassment."
Utah put into law a year ago that each school district will have a policy concerning bullying and hazing, said Verne Larsen, the state's safe and drug-free schools coordinator with the Utah State Office of Education.
Districts are required to train teachers, educators and coaches about the issues of bullying and hazing.
Part of that training includes cyber bullying, as well as instruction for ways bystanders can stand up against bullying -- whether the bullying is physical, verbal or through technology.
"We have to help the kids have the courage not to just be a bystander, but to stand up against bullying," Larsen said.
Due to federal budget cuts, Utah lost $1.5 million last year that helped fund the safe school programs. Part of that included programs about bullying.
Even though the funding is gone, Utah school districts are still trying to provide programs that teach students to understand it is OK if others are different.
"We want students to know people are different and understand that," said Shauna Lund, the community relations specialist with Davis School District.
Parents also have a role in learning what their children are experiencing in school by having discussions about what happened at school.
Parents also have to be willing to hear that their child may be the bully, not the one getting bullied, said Sariah Donnahoo, the behavioral analyst education specialist with the Attorney General's Office Internet Crimes Against Children.
"You could have a bully in your household," Donnahoo said.
She said parents need to know what their children are doing with technology they are using.
"So many more kids are bullies than in the past," she said.
"Too many parents are unwilling to do anything about their child's inappropriate behavior."
Donnahoo said it is also inappropriate for parents whose child or teenager is getting bullied to confront the perpetrator.
Instead, parents should either contact the parent of that child or teenager or contact the school.
Jones said if a parent believes their child is the victim of a bully, it is good to let the school know what is going on so school administrators can help.
"We want the school to be a safe place for children."