We are gifted with guides in our lifetime that have the capacity to influence our heart and feet to move us into directions to setting us free. In the many days, months, and years we have many silent moments where whispers forecast a future in glimpses to free us from mental suffering. Resolution is a full party system between the body, mind, and spirit. The common denominator among adversity is you and I. We give meaning and action to all that exists in our life.

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” –Thich Nhat Hanh

Fate and destiny are ours to own and to resolve. What separates humans from other life forms is the ability to choose the world that they would like to experience. Choice is in the arena even when there is no escape or place to run. Do not go into the new moons and sunrises without facing your shadow. Every year, we make resolutions of grand gestures of the body but not the heart. It is not the initial gesture of pain that keeps us stuck, but the choice to feed it as if it still exists. Resolutions are matters of the spirit and cannot be resolved without this piece. With moral determination, the process of suffering can be broken down into simpler forms. In the end, how are you going to explain to yourself the analysis of your life when a choice was present, and the familiar was chosen?

The conversation is the place where one lives and dwells, and where all answers lie for resolution in a person’s life. Choose to move through this part of yourself and ask for help because it will be needed. What needs to be resolved in the new year to come?

“People have a range of capacities to deal with overwhelming experience. Some people, some kids particularly, are able to disappear into a fantasy world, to dissociate, to pretend like it isn’t happening, and are able to go on with their lives. And sometimes it comes back to haunt them.”

–Bessel Van Der Kolk