Takeout for one not badge of shame
As Feb. 14 approaches, a simple wail often fills the Walgreen’s flower aisle, the Chocolate Factory, and nearly every romantic comedy in theaters: “Why am I still single?!”
Asking that question diminishes one of the types of love that Valentine’s Day was created to celebrate — self-love.
Why are we waiting for someone to sweep us off our feet? Empowerment isn’t a quality that someone else bestows on you; it’s one that comes from within. Who says you can’t buy yourself a bouquet of flowers and fizzle off some stress with a bath bomb?
Valentine’s Day was created to celebrate all types of love. This can include your love of tacos, binge-watching Netflix, putting on expensive lipstick, memes, daytime TV, anything!
We first have to be comfortable with standing on our own two feet before we can expect someone to come into our lives. Just because you haven’t found the right guy or girl yet doesn’t mean you never will.
Besides, if you are looking for a list of qualities in a future romantic interest, you first have to develop those qualities in yourself. If you love jeep rides and rock ‘n’ roll, chances are, you are going to connect with someone who also loves trail rides and loud music.
The cliche phrase “opposites attract” doesn’t work well in real life. If you are sitting at home on Valentine’s Day bemoaning your fate, stop it. Don’t be one of those wailers; instead, focus on loving yourself and becoming comfortable with spending time with the person you are stuck with for the rest of your life — you!
Happiness is a choice and an internal motivator; no number of bouquets of roses or boxes of waxy chocolate will give you lasting happiness. It may help brighten your mood for a while, but it isn’t a permanent thing. If bouquets are your deal, why not splurge and get one for yourself!?
Valentine’s Day isn’t meant to celebrate just couples; it’s a celebration of all types of love. That might be with your pet, your family, or with Netflix. Take a nap, get a massage, read a good book, or go on a run. Develop the traits that you like best in yourself, and what you admire in others.
Remember, too, we are in high school and being single on Valentine’s Day is not the end of the world. The holiday will be over soon. Enjoy this period of your life while it lasts — don’t spend it making yourself miserable in Target’s chocolate section.
Maddison Tenney is a senior at Fremont High School. Email her at maddison10e@gmail.com.